The subject of Alienation

This morning it has occurred to me to think about couples who have been living together for a long time. Some of us have been lucky enough to keep the spark. All the excitement of the first dates, the learning about each other's habits, hobbies, the best kisses, the thought of you might never want to live apart from this person...And then, PAFFF, after a few years, we realize maybe that habit that we used to love about our partner become his or her liability, it starts to annoy us and like a ghost, everything negative creeps into the relationship and settles.

Maybe the alienation of affection is the scariest part when love fades. When this happens, you start blaming your partner for every little things that bother you. You start wanting to fall in love, you are thirst of passions, of sparks. Some of us stay in and try to fix it. Some of us still care but not much with love. Some of us stay because we are afraid of changes. I think we start feeling estranged in our relationship, it is easy for us to stray, to be unfaithful to our partners to meet our need to feel love again. Yes, that is selfish but what to do in a relationship when you still certainly care for your partner but passion has just seemly dies? Maybe that is a pathetic way to apology for when you are being unfaithful but we are not perfect human being.

I don't know, I am just trying to see this in all aspects. In this time, our society starts to lose its morality values, we all become selfish and so everything we do has to result into what benefit us directly in many ways. People become so impatient with each other and many times, this has resulted into big tragedy. It is depressing to live in our time and it is surprising how easy we also get depressed these days. I wonder why? Certainly, it has to do with us wanting something more or something we know we lose or something we might never get. We get depressed for anything and almost nothing, maybe what we should do is to be happy with what we have, rather being depressed about what we don't have. It is like in a relationship, how can we be sure that passion in a new relationship won't die? Certainly it is also not an excuse to not making an effort when you know that your relationship is in danger, there are always signs. Effort should come from both, so if your partner has no idea that the fire is dying, maybe time to talk and work things out? unfortunately, there will be time that it is best to free each other so we don't hurt and get hurt. The more we stay unhappy in the relationship, the longer we commit mistakes, hurting other people and ourselves.

Some foods for thought...